In this chapter, we explain hygiene and preparation – because a good show (of the fist) needs to be orchestrated! 😉 All kidding aside: Thorough preparation makes fisting not only safer, but also more pleasant and relaxed. Here you’ll learn what you can do before fisting (keywords: cleanliness, setting, mental preparation), what you should pay attention to during it, and what helps to conclude everything cleanly and healthily afterward. No shame – we’ll openly discuss enemas, protective sheets, hand care, and more. Let’s get ready to rumble (the healthy way)!

As a bottom – the partner who is fisted – you can do a few things to prepare for the “deep” experience:

• Emptying the bowels: It’s usually more comfortable if you’ve been to the toilet beforehand. Many also do a light enema to clear the rectum of fecal matter. This ensures a cleaner feeling and reduces surprises. Use lukewarm water; a small anal douche or bulb is sufficient. Please don’t pump in liters – too much water can disturb your gut flora and dry out the mucous membrane. Rinsing once or twice is enough. After the enema, allow about 30 minutes for the water to come out completely (otherwise, you might get an unwanted shower later). If only clear water comes back, you’re good to go. But even if it’s not 100% crystal clear: Don’t worry. Absolute sterility doesn’t exist. If in doubt, a glove-towel mix also works: i.e., a hand with a glove and a towel underneath – if anything comes along, it’s caught. Important: do not use soap or cleaning agents internally, as this will only cause irritation.

• External Hygiene: Feel free to take a shower beforehand, clean the anal area with water and mild soap. Make sure to remove any cream residues (if you use hemorrhoid cream or similar, for example) – pure water/lube is more compatible with latex than any greasy ointments. The area should be clean, but not treated with strong perfume or disinfectant – this can irritate the skin.

• Relaxation & Warm-up: As mentioned in the general section: loosen up physically. Perhaps take a hot bath or place warm compresses on your abdomen/anal area beforehand – warmth relaxes the muscles. Do stretching exercises (yes, it actually helps some people if their whole body is flexible). And don’t laugh: Some swear by a few squats or walking around the block to get the circulation going. Drinking a glass of water before starting is also good – hydration never hurts.

• Internal “pre-heating”: If you like, you can pre-stretch with toys or fingers before the big fist. For example, insert a butt plug or one or two fingers first, play a little to get the sphincter used to touch. Some also use so-called dilators or inflatable plugs for training. This is not a must, but it can make insertion easier later.

• Mental Preparation: Especially if it’s your first time (or with a new partner), approach it without time pressure. Perhaps arrange to meet when you truly have peace and quiet (no one has to leave in an hour, no roommate is coming home soon). Be clear: You are in control and can stop at any time. Sometimes it helps to feed your imagination beforehand – read erotic fisting stories or watch (if it excites you) some pornography to get yourself in a positive mood. Anything that reduces anxiety and increases anticipation is good.

Last but not least: Trust your partner. If you feel safe, you can let go more easily. Discuss beforehand what taboos are, what signals you’ll use, etc. A prepared bottom is a happy bottom!

The same applies to the active partner: Preparation is half the battle – or in this case, half the pleasure:

• Hand Check: Your hand is the star today, so make sure it’s fisting-ready. Trim and file fingernails ultra-short (really smooth! Feel with your other hand to check for any rough spots). Remove all jewelry from hands/arms – rings, bracelets, watches stay off. Wash your hands thoroughly with soap, including under the nail edges. If you have rough spots or calluses: Ideally, treat them beforehand with a file/pumice stone so nothing scrapes. In case of acute cuts or bandages on your hand, you should perhaps postpone – or not use the bandaged finger at all (if necessary, a fingertip bandage plus a glove over it). Anything that feels strange on your hand can feel even stranger inside.

• Prepare Gloves: Lay out suitable disposable gloves, preferably several (in case one tears or for later partner changes). Nitrile or latex, as you prefer. Choose a size that fits snugly but doesn’t cut off circulation. Pro tip: If you know you’ll be dealing with different orifices (anus/vagina) or people, prepare a new pair for each session so you don’t have to search in the heat of the moment.

• Prepare Lube: Make sure there’s enough lube within reach – more than you think! Open tubes or mix powders (e.g., J-Lube) beforehand so it’s ready. If you’re using an open container, use a clean spatula or disposable glove to dispense it so as not to contaminate the remaining gel (or even better: everyone gets their own small dish). If you have different types (e.g., thick gel and some silicone oil), discuss beforehand what you want to use and if the compatibility is okay. And beware: We already discussed latex vs. oil – so if you’re using latex gloves, no greasy oil. With nitrile, it doesn’t matter.

• Set up the environment: The ambiance contributes to how comfortable you feel. So: Spread out sheets or towels that can get dirty (there are also waterproof “play sheets”). Dark towels are practical because stains are less visible. Have enough paper towels or wet wipes ready to wipe hands in between. Perhaps a protective layer (e.g., a disposable changing mat or a trash bag under the towel) in case a lot of fluid is involved. Dimmable lights or candles can relax the mood – but also create an option for brighter light in case injuries need to be checked.

• Tools Ready: If you’re mixing lube in disposable gloves, remember to have scissors to cut them open (some mix J-Lube in a glove). If toys are used: Clean them, apply lube, and place them within reach. Don’t forget condoms for the toy. Optionally, a lube warmer (warm lube can be more pleasant than cold from the tube – a little luxury).

• Self-Preparation: As a top, you should also be relaxed. Stretch your hands and fingers, do wrist loosening exercises (don’t laugh, but fisting is also strenuous for the muscles!). Perhaps some stretching exercises for your back/shoulders, depending on the planned position (nothing is worse than a cramp in your arm in the middle of it). And mental preparation: Be aware that you must proceed gently – if you’re “horny as hell”, take a deep breath, refocus. You’ll soon be in a position of power, handle it responsibly. Tell yourself: “I will do nothing without my partner’s okay.” Then that will guide your head and heart.

When things get down to business, let’s keep a few hygiene and safety principles in mind (even during pleasurable trance 😇):

• Put on a glove: Sounds trivial, but some start without one in their excitement. So before you insert anything – glove up! Optionally, put some lube inside the glove; then your hand will slide in more easily, and you’ll have a better feel inside.

• Apply Lube Generously: Don’t be stingy – generously coat the glove and your partner’s anal region. Reapply it continuously during insertion. If you notice it’s getting “dry”, reapply immediately.

• Proceed Slowly and Gradually: First one finger, circular motions, then two, etc. We already covered this in detail in the general section – but it also counts as “hygienic” in terms of injury prevention (because fewer injuries = lower infection risk).

• No “Double-Dipping”: If you’re with multiple partners: Never touch multiple people’s intimate areas with the same glove and hand without changing and washing in between. Likewise, don’t alternate between two different orifices with one hand (e.g., first anal, then your partner’s mouth) – at least not without changing the glove. Different bodily fluids should remain nicely separated.

• Pay Attention to Cleanliness in Between: Example: You’ve reapplied lube, and some of it landed on the tiles – it’s better to wipe it away immediately before someone slips on it. Or you feel your protective sheet is slipping and you’ll soon be on the bare sofa – a quick reality check and adjust it. Sure, you’re in a frenzy, but a little attention to your surroundings will save you chaos.

• Breaks for Cleaning: It can be helpful to completely remove your hand, put on a new glove, and continue fresh if the session lasts longer. Why? The glove can wear out or get small holes, and the lube might get dirty or clumpy. A short break for a “restart” (wash hands, re-lube) can make the second round more pleasant – it’s almost like saving the level and continuing with full mana 😉.

• Watch for Signs: If the bottom says “It burns” or you see blood on the glove – STOP. Don’t think “oh, it’ll be fine”. This is where the emergency brake applies: slowly withdraw, check, and if necessary, stop for the day. Health > Ambition.

Once the wild ride is over, let’s make sure to conclude everything properly:

• Withdraw Gently: Gently pull back the fist. Don’t let it pop out abruptly, otherwise it might pinch unnecessarily.

• Glove Disposal: Remove the glove by turning it “inside” out – this way any germs or dirt remain inside the glove. Dispose of it in the trash (ideally in a separate trash bag that you tie shut afterward). Please do not flush it down the toilet – risk of clogging!

• Hand Washing: As the active partner, immediately wash your hands thoroughly with soap. Even if you wore gloves – just do it, in case anything got through when taking them off or so. Meanwhile, the passive partner might already hobble to the bathroom (carefully, potential ‘leakage’ risk 😅) and rinse the anal area with lukewarm water. No strong soap internally; cleaning only from the outside is sufficient. You can also take a shower if you feel completely sticky.

• Body Check: Take a look at each other: Are there any visible redness or small tears externally? Does the passive partner feel a lot of pain? If there are small external tears, you can carefully apply a wound-healing ointment (e.g., Panthenol). Internally, smaller injuries are usually not immediately noticeable. In most cases, however, it’s okay. But if the passive partner experiences severe pain when walking or sitting, or later notices bright blood when using the toilet, something might have happened. The passive partner should take care of themselves for the next few days: no heavy lifting immediately afterward (don’t strain if the bowel is still full of gel – let it slide out naturally), drink plenty of fluids, eat fiber for soft stools so nothing irritates.

• Clean Up: Unfortunately, this is also part of it. Collect all used towels, protective sheets, and clean the sofa cover if anything seeped through. If sex toys were used, immediately carry them to the bathroom with gloves on and clean them with hot water and soap, then disinfect (especially if someone else might use them). Better to clean now than let it dry later.

• Aftercare (emotional): Many forget this – but fisting is a very intimate thing. Take time for each other afterward. Cuddle, talk, praise (“You did great!”), perhaps drink/eat something sugary, because such activities demand a lot from the circulatory system. Especially if it was very intense or perhaps borderline, it’s important that both feel safe and secure again. This also strengthens your bond of trust for future adventures.

• Follow-up Check: In the days afterward: Passive partners should monitor for unusual symptoms (fever, heavier persistent bleeding, severe pain) – if so, it’s better to see a doctor. It doesn’t hurt to get an STI test 1–2 weeks after an intense session to be safe (especially with new partners). However, many STIs are only detectable after some time (syphilis after 2-3 weeks, HIV after several weeks, etc.), so it’s better to test again after 6 weeks if there was truly a risk.

Hygiene doesn’t just mean cleaning, but also listening to your own body. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s better to get it checked out. But usually, if you’ve paid attention to everything, you’ll simply be happily exhausted and perhaps a little slippery – and that’s a good sign!